Some Valuable Information About Repressed Anger
While some people have problems dealing with public or inappropriate displays of anger, others are learning to deal with repressed anger. Repressed anger is anger that is not expressed. Anger is an emotion that everyone has, but some people are not able to acknowledge that they even have the emotion.
Repressed anger can cause lots of problems, many of them physical. That’s because keeping in anger can turn it back onto yourself, which then can lead to high blood pressure or even stroke or heart disease. Tests that scientists have conducted show that people who show their anger have a decreased risk of stroke and heart disease compared to those who do not express anger.
Another of the problems with repressed anger is that it causes mental conditions as well as physical ones. For instance, depression is often one effect of repressed anger. Anxiety is another. Sometimes repressed anger will come out in indirect ways, such as if your spouse does something to make you angry, you don’t say anything at the time, but the anger comes out later in another action.
An example of this might be that your spouse wanted to buy a new car. You didn’t want to or didn’t approve but your husband or wife went out and did it anyway. The next time the car payment is due, you suddenly forget to deposit the money in the checking account. This kind of behavior even has a name and is called passive aggression.
Trying to find healthy ways to express anger is not always easy. Sometimes you might need to talk to a friend or get help from a therapist. All of this is totally normal. If you are unaware of your own repressed anger, there are symptoms to look for that may display themselves in your daily life.
For instance, here are some of things to look for: depression, irritability, snapping at people, grinding your teeth, responding frequently with sarcasm, abusing drugs or food, having stomach problems like heartburn or an ulcer, having problems with concentration and focus, being very impatient, speaking harshly to people, being overly obsessive or compulsive, or demonstrating behavior which is self-destructive.
One of the first things to do with repressed anger is to identify the symptoms. Then you need to recognize when you are angry and accept it. Confronting your anger and learning to acknowledge and express it are another part of the process. This is most often hard to do on your own. Don’t be afraid to seek help. Try seeing a therapist or go to meetings of a group devoted to helping one another deal with anger. That way you will find some healthy ways to express your anger.